Traumatic experiences impact our lives well after the events take place. If you have experienced a serious event such as abuse, assault, or the unexpected death of a loved one, it is normal to have a wide range of reactions like feeling tense, numb, shocked, fearful, angry, irritable, sad, guilty or unmotivated.
People who are going through the breakup of their marriage can experience feelings of anger, despair, sadness, guilt, loneliness, disbelief, fear, and anxiety. Often there are feelings of shame and embarrassment and a sense of deep failure when a marriage ends.
Other responses to the trauma of separation and divorce include physical pain, mood swings, fatigue, depression, weight gain or loss, nausea, poor concentration and sleep problems.
A psychotherapist can support you through these difficulties and help you to regain the strength and confidence you may have lost since your marriage ended by helping you understand and accept your feelings, and come to terms with your or your partner’s decision. You will also have an opportunity to reflect on what went led up to the separation and explore how you contributed to the breakdown, so that you can avoid similar patterns in future relationships.
Divorce can be an opportunity to rediscover yourself, identify what is currently important to you, and give you the chance to look forward to new and better things ahead. Recovering from the emotional blow of divorce, although painful, can in time, be a strengthening experience leading to great personal growth.